Going Forward.

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 Hello there Beauties! It's been a while. I've been so caught up with life; it's a hectic journey. 

The other day I posted some DON'Ts as it relates to people who are grieving (especially when it is sudden unexpected and fresh). Here are some tips (this is my opinion, you can respectfully disagree) on some comments you can make that would be objective and helpful.

Instead you can say: 

  • I’m here for you if you need me. 
  • You’re doing fine. You’re managing/handling stuff well. 
  • Let’s talk about how you’re feeling, if you want. (And I don’t need you to listen just so you can tell people any of the stuff in the previous post.)
  • I love you. 
  • I understand what you’re saying, I can’t relate, but your thoughts and feelings are valid. (You people have a great way of invalidating how people feel and disguising it as a starter to “you don’t want to get better”)
  • It won’t get better today or maybe never, but you will get better at managing. 
  • It’s okay if you feel like that. 
  • You don’t have to be strong all the time. You’re not a robot. 
  • They [your loved one] loved you. I think (emphasis on the I THINK) they would have been proud of you. 
  • I know you’re hurting. How can I help? What can I do? 

And if you happen to read this, answer this question:

QOTD: What else would you have added to this list? 


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