Rewiring My Mind: Part One - "It Could Never Be Me"

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Hello there Beauties! 

I have been inspired to write about my journey with rewiring my mind in hopes of self-fulfillment. I am on a journey to change the way I think, to change my perspective, and in turn, change my life. For this, I wanted to go to therapy, but at the moment, I cannot afford it. My next best bets were the following things (I narrowed it down to things I can try to commit to and be consistent with): 
  1. Walking 3 times per week (I am working assiduously on being consistent with this)
  2. Journalling everyday
  3. Posting to my blog once per week
  4. Reading 1 chapter from a self-help book once per week (these are so hard to get into)
  5. Listening to self-help/motivational podcasts sometimes (I do this when I have trouble sleeping)
I have been following the Reesa Teesa series on TikTok, leading me to my first lesson: getting rid of the "It could never be me" mindset. If you're not caught up with the series, you can watch a review TikTok, but this creator ReesaTeesa shared her traumatic story of how she married a pathological liar. It was a very touching story, and it can be a valuable lesson. My key takeaways: 
  • I need to abolish the "It could never be me" mindset because life is unpredictable. It is the same as "never say never." I watched all 52 ten-minute videos, and I empathized with Ms Reesa. I stopped throughout the videos, and I asked myself if I could've been fooled in the same way. My answer was no. However, could I have been fooled? Absolutely. Because someone could have played on my vulnerabilities, just as how her ex-husband played on hers. You could be here thinking, how was she so stupid? and then life says, alright, watch this; bet. 
  • Do not dig up your seed, just because others' fruits are in bloom. Whew, a word. In Jamaican  terms, "nuh watch nuh face", which loosely translates to "every dog has his day." This means your time is coming. Stop focusing on other people's timelines, and stop trying to speed up yours, Life is not a race. My mom used to say "Today fi mi, tomorrow fi you," which means " Everyone has a season for success and failure."
  • Isaiah 60:22 says, "When the time is right, I, the Lord will make it happen." Patience is the word of the day. I find myself thinking from time to time den a coulda wa wrong wid me suh? (what am I doing wrong?) when I see people my age accomplishing big things, then I am reminded that nothing happens before its time. So I remind myself that everyone's journey is different, and not everyone starts at the line. Some of us start behind, some of us have a headstart, and some of us haven't even made it to the stadium yet. Comparison is the thief of joy, literally.
  • Stop trying to get to the finish line, and enjoy the journey. We get so caught up trying to finish, trying to succeed, trying to do this, that, and the third without stopping to enjoy the now. What about now? Are you not living in answered prayers? Are you not at least one step further than you used to be? Enjoy the little things, and stop trying to spend your entire life racing to the finish line.
  • Stop putting yourself on society's timeline. There's no age that you need to be married by, having children by, buying a house, car, or land by, or none of that. Do it at your own pace. Do it at a pace you're comfortable with. Do not try to cut corners because society says you should. We are in charge of how our stories are written; don't skip some of the best chapters.

QOTD: What are some of your best recommendations for self-help books/podcasts? I’m currently reading, "The Mountain is You" by Brianna Weist. It's brilliant so far.





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