The Greatest Love of All ❤️

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Hello there Beauties!

Love is in the air!!!!

Happy post/belated Valentine's Day. I hope you guys got to spend it with someone you love, or doing something you love. I spent V-Day with my boyfriend. We made homemade chicken sandwiches, and fries, and paired them with RedStripe’s Pine Coconut RumStripe. ‘Twas a good day. 

It took being loved by someone else to start learning to love myself. I’ve always been annoyed with everything about myself: my thoughts, my mannerisms, the way I look, my acne, my struggles, my life, etc. I felt like I didn't belong here, and I didn't deserve to be here. I've always been my biggest enemy, my harshest critic, and I didn't always give myself enough grace to make mistakes. The ironic thing about this is that I am a certified lover girl to everyone around me. Lol.

When I met my boyfriend in 2020, I honestly didn't anticipate that we would've become anything other than friends. We became fast friends, and we'd talk every day, and it felt like a new beginning; like a fresh start; like the start of something beautiful. Before this, I hadn't really had any male friends because there was way too much drama, and I already had enough drama with the few friends I did have. It still blows my mind how he got to know me as a friend, and is still getting to know me as a girlfriend, and he loves me. Whew, this is still mind-blowing. 

The more I felt love, the more I started to believe that I deserved it. There are times that I mess up, and I fall right back into thinking that I'm unworthy, but I have to work hard to snap out of it. It has been a process, but my mind is the real opp, and I'm working on her. I have tried self-help books (can't really get into them), and self-help podcasts before bed (otherwise I can't get into those either). It's hard trying to rewire my mind and brain against all the self-doubt, self-hate, and self-annoyance (Idk if this is a word, lol), but I'm trying my utmost best to stay on top of it. 

I say this all to say, that self-love is one of the hardest loves to conquer. If it isn't standard practice for you from your youth, it can be so hard to master it in adulthood. Take it one day at a time. It's hard work but you need to push through it. You deserve to be loved, and loving yourself prevents you from situations where your worth is compromised. 

Memba seh a Whitney Houston seh, "Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all."
 

QOTD: What is your main love language, and how are you loving yourself with it? I’m a "words of affirmation" girly, and I write letters to myself. 


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