Rewiring My Mind: Part Two - “Why Not Me?”

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Hello there Beauties!

I am on a journey to change the way I think, to change my perspective, and in turn, change my life. I just wanna admit that it has been hard. I don’t know where I picked up the habit of speaking negatively to/about myself, downplaying my abilities, or even my negative thoughts. When I can afford therapy, I’ll find that out. For now, I’m focusing on what I do know, and finding ways to fix those things. 

This week, let’s focus on the “Why Not Me” mindset. I have realized that I’m very very skeptical when it comes to believing that I deserve good things, or that I deserve when good opportunities come my way. That’s crazy, right? Because why would I not deserve good things? What has made me such a bad person who doesn’t deserve good things? Let’s think about it. That’s self-sabotage right there. 

However, I have also realized that when bad things happen, it’s easy to think “Why Me?” and in the same breath, accept that maybe everything just happens for a reason.  I need to start employing the same mindset towards good things. When I see something that I could remotely be good at, I hesitate because my first thought is, "This might not work out, and I don't want to be disappointed." Disappointment is a very big thing for me because I feel like it takes being disappointed about one little thing to trump feeling proud of 5 big things. I try not to put myself out there in fear of what others might think, in fear of the future, in fear of being disappointed, and also, in fear of being good at it. 

How do I fix that? Instead of asking "Why me?" so readily when things go wrong, or when presented with an opportunity, I am starting to ask "Why not me?" when opportunities come up for me to put myself out there. It's either success or failure. If it’s a no, it’s a no. If it’s a yes, then great. Nothing is more disappointing than the regret of not even trying. Wayne Gretzky said, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” This simply means that you can’t know until you try; nothing tried, nothing done. 

I’m always my biggest critic, and my biggest enemy. I need to become my biggest fan, and my biggest cheerleader. Why not me? Literally. I’m always learning, trying, and stepping out of my comfort zones to please others, but I am gonna start treating me like I treat everyone else around me. I have started apologizing to myself, and sending sweet messages to myself when I feel down. I’ve also started praying for myself, and motivating myself. I’ll update you all on the journey as I go along. 

QOTD: How do you get out of your head to take chances?  If my initial thought is that I can’t do it, I push myself to do it even more. 




 

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