Nuggets > Knowledge

Hello there Beauties!

I’m sorry if y’all missed me last week, especially since I promised consistency. However, Mother’s Day is always such an awful day for me and last week I could not muster up the courage to write anything remotely sensible. I’m okay though; I sat with my feelings and I dealt with them in a non harmful way. Every year I expect to feel better and not bitter, and every year I’m met with bitterness. It’s a work in progress, and grief comes in waves. I’m learning to stay afloat, sink, or swim. 

Anyway, this week I wanted to talk to you guys about Finding Answers in Other People’s Stories. I was listening to She’s So Lucky podcast, formerly Balanced Black Girl, and this just stood out to me. I don’t even remember what the conversation was, but we need to learn to extract what we need, and apply it as needed without drawing inspiration from others. We tend to look outwards and to others for all the solutions to our problems, and the answers to our questions. While this may be helpful, we need to try to maintain our individuality and forge our own paths. Your story is yours to write, stop trying to hiring ghost writers to execute your vision. 

Let’s be real for a second: 

We’ve all fallen into the trap of looking for the answer in someone else’s story. In this new age of social media where everyone is trying to teach you something: how to get viral, how to change your life, how to do this, how to do that… we tend to get lost in the sauce and try to draw inspiration and answers from everywhere. 

You hear how someone quit their job, launched a business, went viral, found peace, fixed their routine—and you’re like, "Okay cool, maybe that’s what I need to do too."

But here’s the thing: their story isn’t your story. Their timing, mindset, resources, pain points—it’s all different. And trying to copy-paste their exact path? That’s a fast track to feeling stuck or behind. As a matter of fact, because of our lives experiences, life can never be the same for everyone, no matter how similar our paths are. 

Instead of trying to take the whole story and run with it, start looking for the nuggets—the little insights that actually hit. A sentence that makes you pause. A mindset shift that clicks. A piece of advice that makes sense. A way of thinking that sticks with you. A habit that is helpful. Those are gold.

Don’t try to download someone else’s life like it’s a template. Just grab what resonates and leave the rest. Nuggets over knowledge, every time.

Take what you need. Apply it your way. Keep it moving.

Your story’s being written too—and it deserves its own blueprint.

QOTD:  How do you determine what to apply to your life without copying someone else’s?

Love from all ends, 

Bella